#WomensMonth: 9 things women should know about what men actually want

He’s with you because he thinks you’re beautiful

He probably wouldn’t be with you if he didn’t think you were attractive. Men are visual creatures and looks always play a part, but probably not in the way that you think it does. Just like women, men have preferences about body type but they are as individual as yours. So if he’s with you, you are most likely his type. If you want to change something about you, do it, but do it for yourself not for him. If he is critical of your appearance you may have to rethink the relationship.

Making the first move

Men are also afraid of humiliation and rejection. If you are interested and afraid of initiating an interaction, at least give some encouragement – a warm smile, an open body posture.

Order dessert

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If you are not comfortable with your body this is where you are going to expose yourself. You don’t have to pretend that you don’t like food. You don’t have to eat a salad if you don’t really like salad and ordering dessert could be a very sexy move. Buying into the stereotypes of being skinny is not sexy. It means that you are not comfortable in your own skin or with the person you are with. If you are thin and don’t like food then bully for you, but don’t pretend.  Fake isn’t sexy.

Men prefer confident women

Research shows that most men would rather date a confident plus-size woman than an insecure supermodel. Every man wants to be with a beautiful woman. But if she’s beautiful with narcissistic, neurotic insecurities, that beauty quickly fades in the eye of the beholder. Many women find it hard to accept, but personality and confidence make a woman sexy. The way men perceive women is generally how women perceive themselves. Lots of confidence is sexy. Lots of complaining and fishing for compliments, not.

You can be the boss in the bedroom

Traditional gender roles are great, but sometimes men like women to take charge. You don’t need to be aggressive or use handcuffs, but tell your partner what works for you. Men can also be nervous about pleasing you. You taking control in the right situation could be what he needs to loosen up.

A compliment (or two) won’t hurt anyone

Men also need their confidence boosted. A quick compliment goes a long way. It doesn’t have to be verbal if you’re shy. An arm squeeze or an appreciative look will do.

Less is more when it comes to makeup

A woman wearing no makeup is often much sexier than one with too much makeup. Wearing a little can be nice and if it gives you confidence, go for it. However, men find the vulnerability and trust that go with going natural enticing and endearing.

Don’t pretend to like things you don’t

It’s great if you love sports and love watching it with the boys, but don’t pretend that you do if you don’t. If you hate video games go do what you like doing and let him play without feeling guilty. He’ll love you more for it.

Be comfortable in your own skin

It’s normal to put on your best face especially in the early stages of a relationship. But wearing a mask too often can make it impossible to take it off. The only way a relationship will last is if you are the real you. Whoever you are told you should be as a woman probably isn’t the person you should actually be. There’s nothing more attractive than a woman who is comfortable in her own skin.

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